2016 was a YEAR y’all. Good things, great things, heartbreaking things happening at what seems like every turn now that I look back on it. I am glad to see it go.
My year started with the death of my idol – David Bowie left this world and then the world seemed to untie itself. The first month of my year was in tears and many months following were visited by the same. You can read more about my relationship with Bowie here. Many of the famous losses following weren’t as personal as his passing, but they were losses nonetheless and others were impacted as deeply. Which still hurts me. It’s like the universe knows it can hurt my feelings even if it isn’t trying.
In the same ball park, we lost Jordan’s grandfather this year. He was the first of our grandparents to leave us. Simultaneously I felt everyone’s pain and I had to be strong for them. I’ve never known a loss like that and I’ve never felt more connected to family and I will never forget it.
Each of you will read this and think back on the atrocities of 2016 – I invite you to do so but only for a moment. It’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay be uncertain.
Now let’s pivot.
To the amazing things that happened this year, thank you for keeping our heads above the muddy waters. Here are a few of mine:
(Personally) most notably, this was THE YEAR OF THE JALAPEÑO for me. A dramatic obsession, it all started with a young plant and a warmer than average spring and a changed life and smoother skin due to capsaicin ingestion. I am crazy about jalapeños y’all. For months and months my belly was so happy but now.. my plant is all used up and bottled jalapeños are a damn disgrace. I can’t wait to grow more next year.
Notable as well, some reconciliations that have calmed me. Myself and an old enemy have built a new bridge. A strong, shit talking, death cab for cutie loving precious metal bridge. Also, myself and my best friend, my crazy, smart, beautiful, funny, dazzling best friend are finally on the same page with each other and the intensity of our relationship. There is a quiet but bold peace in my soul because of it.
This is the year that I got to see Chesapeake Bay, the place my 16 year old self dreamed about and wanted to be so badly. I fell in love Washington DC and got 7 blisters on my feet that haven’t grown since 7th grade and new smile lines on the face that is, at last, looking like an adult in the mirror to me.
For six years my husband belonged to the US Military – a contract that dictated our time together and could have afforded us many opportunities. Unfortunately, it never quite delivered. This year he was honorably discharged and we have the green light on life now…
… Two weeks later we had a contract on our very first house. (!!!!!!) (We close January 2017!!!!)
Small and or important victories include: 3 years of marriage, my first 5k, becoming debt free, three attendances to live theatre shows (The Little Mermaid, Spamalot, A Christmas Story), my career move to corporate banking, a generous expansion of our record collection, seeing my favorite movie of all time, Labyrinth, on the big screen for its 30th anniversary and renting our first car.
Favorite movie of 2016: Swiss Army Man
Favorite TV Series of 2016: Stranger Things
Favorite album of 2016: Lapsley, Long Way Home
Favorite taco of 2016: Southern Fried Chicken, Tacorita (jalapeño ranch yall)
For 2017 I hope to accomplish simple necessities such as filling up a big new house with furniture and neat things, nurture my closest relationships, and master the art of palm reading. Additionally, I hope to grow this blog. I might even purchase a real domain. See y’all on the other side.